You become a powerful source within yourself that attracts better when you go all in and unleash the beast within you. Founder of Team NK Athletics and Impakt, Nick Komodina shows what success looks like coming from the perspective of a successful personal trainer. Nick is one of the top coaches in the fitness industry, and he breaks down the training method, coaching principles, and mentality he taps into his clients. As he dives into the importance of staying away from the loser mentality and insecurities, he also touches on the effect of childhood traumas, content creation, accepting compliments, and more.
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Going “All In,” Online Coaching, & What Success Looks Like with Nick Komodina
One Of The Top Online Coaches
We have an incredible guest, a good friend of mine, named Nick Komodina. Remember, this is unfiltered. Nick is an astounding entrepreneur. He’s from San Diego. Nick owns NK Athletics. He works with people everywhere, from athletes and influencers, all the way down to everyday people who want to transform from the inside out. That’s the most important. He’s not just a physique coach. I’m nothing against that, but he’s a lot more than that. He really brings a science behind all of his training and his coaching, and taps into the mentality of each of his clients and works with them. It’s not even clients. They’re more so partnerships because they’re building something together. That’s the incredible part. He also is the owner of Impakt and it’s that they impact the world. They impact the industry through apparel and other adventures that they’re going through now and will be evolving through. Nick is an incredible entrepreneur and a great person. He has been showing up on social media every single day with this energy, this love and passion for everyone around them, especially his followers. That’s why I asked him to come here to Denver, Colorado and exceed expectations with anyone of what they thought he might be. Nick, welcome.
Thanks. I’m happy to be here. It’s my first time in Colorado. It’s a lot hotter than I thought it was going to be.
Nick, we talk about your business now that is super successful. You work with people. We went through an entire experience. We dive into the background and some of the knowledge-based training that Nick has formed his business upon and it’s awesome content. You definitely want to check that out. You’re so successful now and you had 300 plus emails from people wanting to work with you. You don’t have a large following. I don’t want to use the word special because I don’t think anyone is special, but what makes you so unique?
I don’t think a following means jack shit. I don’t care if you have 50 followers, 500,000 followers or five million followers. If you’re a shit person, you’re a shit fucking person. I don’t treat anybody different when I meet them and I find out that they have five million followers, I’m like, “What do you need from me? That doesn’t mean anything to me. You’re the same person as I am.”
That relates to why you’re so successful.
I think so because a lot of people almost feel entitled to, “You all follow me, why wouldn’t you coach with me?” They can pump out half-assed content, half-assed efforts and they only get half-assed results and wonder why. They usually blame somebody else. They can’t dive in and say, “I’m not putting my best for it.” My biggest concept ever is everything I do is always my fucking best. I don’t ever put out anything half-assed. I don’t have a large following. Everything I do needs to make that impact.
It’s the 100% mentality. You’re not that 80% guy. You’re not going to go into a relationship at 80%, 90% and everything is relationships. Your successful business is based off of relationships and how you perform is all based off of relationship as well. You provide 100% value all day on social. I even tell people you need one person to believe in you to have them as a client or have them to pay you and to build your successful business or whatever you want in your life.
I 100% agree and this will dive back into the following thing. I talk to a bunch of coaches that go, “I’m starting off. I can’t get any clients. I only have 500 followers,” and I go, “Only 500 followers. You have 500 people in your audience. Sign 10% of them, that’s 50 fucking clients. That’s a full-time coaching business.”
That could be $15,000 at $300 a month.
Nobody thinks like that. They think, “I don’t have a following so I can’t do anything.” What does your material look like? What do you look like? Here’s the thing. Every single one of my clients, I’m very upfront that I’m a no bullshit type of coach. There are so many excuses I’ve heard. I don’t deal with them. I don’t tolerate them. I tell everybody I work with that every single person, you all have this internal fucking beast in you to be successful in careers, school, relationships, the gym, your physique, your diet and the only thing stopping you is that you have no idea that it exists. I know it exists. If you work with me, I pull back everything that makes you uncomfortable. After working with someone for two weeks, I know and I can tell you’re not comfortable doing this. What do I do? I make them do that. They grow and they become better. All of a sudden, we rip them open and pull out this beast. They’re like, “I don’t even know who I am anymore.” I’m like, “Good.”
If you don’t create yourself, you’ll never be able to create anything else in your life. You’ll never be able to create that business. You won’t create that relationship. You won’t be able to create that house that you want with those kids or anything. What you’re getting at is all the shit that we’ve added onto our life over time, telling ourselves and doubting ourselves that because of what society says.
We grow up hearing no. That’s our society. “No, you can’t do that.” “No, you can’t drop out of college and start your own business.” “No, you can’t eat carbs or you’re going to get fat.” “No, you can’t do carbs.” I fucking love carbs.
Do you like pizza?
I love pizza.
Do you like hamburgers?
I love hamburgers. Cheeseburger is better.
Do you really? Why?
Yes, because it’s cheese.
That’s science right there. Is that a part of the NK Athletics principle?
Yes. Cheese on burgers always.
Let’s shift because this is what I love to do. I love to make these things all over the place.
Do you know what else is the good thing? Then you know who’s bullshitting and who’s not because they can’t keep up.
When you apply these principles to everyone. We were training and you explained yourself so well. I have my exercise physiology degree. I wasn’t going to argue. I wasn’t going to be pissed off or anything. I mentioned something about your training method. I have zero complaints because you explained yourself in a way that I understood like, “Brendan, if you want to go for power or being explosive, you’re going to use these two fingers a little bit more or use that thumb. We’re working towards building that specific muscles. Those lats or the low traps or the rhomboids or the rotator cuff muscles. Where did you learn all that shit?
To be completely honest, this is something that everybody, when I tell them they’re like, “What?”
Was it like books are us?
I went to community college for a year and a half. I was majoring in Kinesiology. I dropped out because college isn’t for me. I started personal training at a gym. I was there for two years. I and the guy fell out and I opened up my own gym. I had that for three and a half years. I was doing hands-on personal training from 5:00 AM until 9:00 PM for five years. I was doing my own research on top of that. Anything I read, any studies I saw or any videos I watched, I was able to take that and immediately put it on people. See how it works on every single person and be like, “Why don’t you try doing this?” Being able to like physically see somebody go, “I feel that,” and drilling that in my brain for six fucking years. Experience is the number one teacher in this entire world. That’s how I learned all that.
I did something a little bit different. I went from my exercise physiology degree. There’s no problem with going to school and all of that. That’s a whole different topic. You can go to school. I think it’s great. I also think it’s bullshit in a lot of fucking ways.
You and I have the same standpoint.
We also have the same energy. We’re also great boxers. With the principles and everything that you’ve learned, that’s very interesting because you talk about you had your own gym. Someone that’s reading this and they’re like, “I want to build a gym,” or “I want to be a successful coach. I want to make $10,000, $20,000, $30,000, $40,000, $50,000.” We throw these around like it’s whatever. Not everyone makes as much as they say they do. I’ll put that out there. They bullshit a lot. From that standpoint, if someone’s reading this and they’re reading all this stuff, what mistakes and stuff did you consume and embrace to get past so you could build the gym, you could go on personal training in a different way and coach and be successful with all this stuff? What did you have to go through?
Number one was that I was very impatient. The first opening I got, I was like, “I need to take that,” even if it wasn’t ideal like signing up with the dude who was my boss. It was a terrible environment but I was stuck in it because I was too impatient. I went right straight through it. When I opened my gym, I had a lot of clientele at first. I started getting too overwhelmed. I got too tired. I stopped giving a shit about my effort and showing up for my clients. I felt entitled because I opened a gym. “I’m 21 years old. I own my own gym. You guys can come here and train. You can be fine if I’m not as present in your session for a little bit because I’m tired.” People started dropping off and I didn’t understand.
Until finally, I had that kick in the ass. One of my clients was like, “It’s like I don’t even train with you anymore.” They were like, “You just stand there. When you were at the other gym, you were all on my shit. You wouldn’t let me slack. You told me to do fifteen reps. I did six and you didn’t even notice.” That was like a smack to my face. I was like, “Dude.” You have to keep showing up for people. We get so comfortable and this even goes further than business. This is relationships and friendships. We get so comfortable and we start feeling so entitled that we stop showing up. When people stop showing up for us, we go, “What the fuck?” That’s a catch-22.
I don’t want to go too fast because what you said is that when people say something to us, we could say something to someone else and be like, “Fucking cool. Suck it up.” Once we hear back, it’s like, “Whoa.” What if we took the stance with building our own businesses and building our relationships in the same way? We’re like, “I don’t want to be treated wrong. Why would I ever reciprocate that?”
You have to give what you want. You can’t expect to get something you’re not giving. It’s like respect. Respect is given, not earned.
For you, you weren’t giving that same respect.
Not at all and people were going, “Why the fuck would I pay you money?” I couldn’t grasp that concept so I lost a ton of clients. I was struggling. I was eating Top Ramen. I was like, “How am I going to keep this gym open? I’ve got to get back on my bullshit,” and I had the surge of motivation. I started promoting myself. I got more clients in. Once I got my clientele back up, the same shit happened. I got in this toxic cycle. Finally, I broke it because I started telling myself when I had to figure out that motivation is so temporary. Motivation is not constant and nobody understands that.
Motivation and discipline are two different things. Do not use them in the same instance.
I always use this concept for this and that’s people who work jobs or going to school when you wake up in the morning to your alarm at 4:00, you are not fucking motivated to stop that and get out of your warm bed and get ready for work. You are disciplined to do so because you have to go to work if you want to get paid. You have to show up if you want to get the reward. That principle and that discipline need to be in every single thing we do in our life.
The problem is, Nick, is that’s the way society is set up now, you don’t have to show up as much anymore to have some money. It’s not about vision. I’m not talking about vision. I’m talking about just for money. You don’t need to show up as much. You see it all the time now. As a coach, for instance, someone could have 100 clients and put work in. They’re still getting paid. People don’t want to stay on, but yet they keep on coming in because someone has a following or whatever it is and they’re not truly providing so much value. They don’t have discipline in that value, but yet they’re still getting paid. It doesn’t mean that their visions come into life, but they’re still getting paid. It’s a problem in society all the time is that we consume this idea that we don’t have to give it our all, all the time. “I’m getting some of this or I’m getting some of that or I’m getting a little bit leaner or this girl does like me. Our relationship is okay, so I don’t have to try as hard.” It’s like, “What the fuck can we do to create people?” For anyone in this world to take the stance of all or nothing. You either go all in and you don’t cheat yourself or you go all out and you don’t cheat yourself.
Here’s the thing. Not everybody is like that. Everybody has it. Everybody has that beast inside of them. Not everybody in their life is going to find it and bring it out. We need that because we need janitors. We need desk workers. We need customer support at AT&T. We need them.
People go all in on those things as well. Let’s say someone’s circumstance. They come from Mexico and they come into the United States. They do a lot of the jobs, the hard fucking working jobs that a lot of Americans don’t want to.
I can’t even tell you how many, especially in San Diego, because we’re right there. I can’t tell you how many Mexican entrepreneurs there are that start their own landscaping businesses and have a crew of fifteen guys who work under them and knock out 20 to 30 houses a day at a $100 a house. There are always going to be those people who know. “I want to create the best life for myself possible. I can’t stop working until I do it.” There are those people that go, “I’m getting a solid paycheck. I have enough money to go get drunk once a week. I’m cool.” That’s not me. That’s not my clients. That’s not anybody I work with because I don’t allow them to do that.
This is what he’s saying is that number one, show up. If you want something in return, show up. Number two, don’t fall into the trap of what society brings to the table in like, “It’s okay.” It’s not okay. It’s as simple as that. It’s not okay. Don’t do it and before I say anything else, I do want to tap back into this and this is my number three. You said that not everyone, in their lifetime, would be able to go all in or be 100% or show up even though the beast is inside them. Why not?
That’s such an open-ended question because everybody has it, but you could say something like, “They don’t have the discipline to do so. They didn’t have somebody in their life. They didn’t have a mentor. They didn’t have a coach. They didn’t have somebody who gave a shit about them enough to help them level up.” I don’t care who you are. There’s no such thing as a self-made millionaire. There’s no such thing as a self-made anything. Everybody successful has somebody more successful than that they looked through that help them elevate. You don’t do it on your own. Sometimes people either have too much pride to ask for help, but some people want to say, “Brendan is successful because he got lucky he has Instagram followers.” Do you know how many people probably say that? Like, “Fuck Brendan. He’s successful. He got an in at the right time.”
You have a lot of truth to what you’re saying. That beast is inside of everyone. Not only can you bring that beast and unleash that. You can and you will if you stay true to your vision of what you want and you’re consistent and disciplined. It might not be easy. It’s not going to be easy. Nothing’s ever easy, but the beautiful thing is it’s coming. It most likely won’t come at the perfect instance. It never does. This is research. Stay on the path of whatever you want to do and take that leap of faith. Remember, when you take that leap of faith, do it with baby steps. You also said something about support. You touched on support. I want to talk about this because we don’t, especially you and I. I can say this because I know Nick and I know myself. We’re very similar. We want to get things done on our own. We want to make it happen. We want to make things happen as quickly as possible.
We’re doers. We’re getting done. We’re not talkers.
As doers, as promoters and as controllers in these senses, we don’t see the support sometimes.
It’s mostly because people aren’t on the same wavelength as us. If you look at you and me, I’ve been in Colorado for four hours and Brendan and I have already sent off an email to start a business together. That’s what happens when you go around like-minded people who get shit done. The whole saying of like, “You are who you surround yourself with.” If you’re not in a system that’s supportive and this can even be your own fucking family. I had to cut out my family, 99% of my family. People are like, “I love my family.” I love my family to death, but they’re losers in life. They’ve dead-end jobs. They’re not happy. They complain about everything and I had to say, “I can’t be up on this energy.”
I don’t think you mean it in the way that people are going to read this and think like, “They’re fucking losers? This Nick guy is a dick face.” You’re not a dick face. This is what I’m going to say is that what he means by losers, it means that he’s wanted something for them his entire life. This is what he’s trying to say. He’s wanted something his entire life to see them grow and do the things that they’ve always loved to do and always wanted to do. Maybe the relationships, not the best, whatever it is in their own life, whatever it is, but they’ve settled.
For me, settling for a life that’s average is as bad as losing. For me, that’s a loser mentality. I can’t be around that mentality. I love them with all my heart. I’m always there for them but as far as me, putting myself in that environment, it’s not helping me. That’s like putting a plant in a dark room and expecting it to grow. It doesn’t unless it’s an air plant. I don’t think succulents grow.
Basically, what I did was we had the mafia in front of us and they all had big ass AK-47s even though they don’t use AK-47s. That’s science right there. They were pointing their guns at you. I came in, I was like, “I’m Italian.” That’s true. They need two to tango. I came in there and I said, “You need to relax,” and we pulled you out. Now, everyone knows that being a loser is like having that losing mentality. I’m going to shift the jokingness into seriousness. It’s having that losing mentality and you don’t want to have that losing mentality all the time. We’re going to, I have it sometimes. I’m not going to bullshit.
There’s got to be that balance.
When you can get yourself out of that losing feel, that’s when you’re going to start seeing things blossom all around you.
This is something that we joke about, but it’s super serious and this is a mindset that needs to be there for anybody to be successful. You said this and I said it, but we were joking, but it’s also true. Even when I lose, I’m still winning. We take a loss as, “That didn’t work,” instead of, “Fuck this, I’m going to give up.” I’m like, “Why don’t I try that one? That one worked.” A loss doesn’t have to be a loss. It shows that it doesn’t work.
Do you know what it does? When you lose, it gives you an insight into the path to winning. When you lose, you find out all the information that you need to bring your vision to life. If you tap into that loss, you embrace that loss and you learn from it, it becomes a fucking experience because experiences create you.
To go off of that, this is something that I talked to my competitors a lot about. It’s very easy for a competitor to go on stage and think, “I’m going to win,” and they lose and all motivation for the sport goes out the window because it’s devastating. You’ve dieted your ass off. You’ve suffered and they go on and not going to win. You go, “I lost. I’m not good in this sport.” I go, “Everybody loses. There’s not a single person in this sport or anywhere in the world that’s not lost.”
I tell them your path in competing to get that pro card, to get that Olympia title, you might have to lose. I’m a huge believer in like most of our path has already been pre-determined and we have the ability to uncover it as we go and we can take different paths.
Do you think that we have different paths?
There’s a DNA strand of paths and we can figure out which one that we want to go on but we have to search. We have to get uncomfortable if you want to go down that one. If that path for them is to get that pro card and get that win, there might be six losses they have to go through. You have to lose another five times before you get to that goal. You just knocked one off. Your one loss is closer to that win. If you lose that first time and you go, “Fuck this, I’m done,” you are done.
Nick, you talk about losing. Where have you lost in your life?
It’s pretty much nowhere. I’m a winner because when we lose, we win. I’ve lost a lot. Even losing comes down to more than just business aspects. I’ve lost in friendships. I’ve lost in relationships.
Give us an example in one area of your life where you’ve lost and hurt.
My most recent relationship, I didn’t show up. It’s the same thing. We got comfortable, stopped showing up and lost. There’s obviously a lot more that peels back for stuff like that, but it’s the same thing for friendships. Even when you lose something, it can always be a win. When I was in high school and college, we had a huge group of buddies. We were best friends. I got down this path of drinking, where I was in a bad spot. I said I wanted to take a whole year off. It was like my New Year’s resolution. I was like, “I’m not going to drink alcohol for an entire year.” It took me one month to lose every single friend that I thought I had. That felt like a loss to me. I look back and I’m like, “Did you guys became only my friends because I was fucking drinking?” I think places, where we lose, are contextual to that moment because when I stopped getting invited going out, it made me feel terrible. Now I look back at it and that’s one of the biggest losses I’m the most grateful for, was getting away from that. I don’t even know if closing my gym was counted as a loss because I had to do that to pursue online coaching. It felt like a loss because it was like, “I can’t keep this gym open anymore.” I wanted to be able to do both.
You want to win all the time, but that’s okay. Those losses are so important. You talk about in that alcohol stint, like you were going again and again. It’s fucking tearing you down. It was destroying you. A lot of people that are reading right now or friends of ours that struggle. I have friends all over that struggle with something that they’re either addicted to, it’s an addiction. I think that we have addictions because of lack of discipline in other areas of our life. It’s unfortunate because of cigarettes. There are things that are truly addictive that bring out the addictive personality even more in us. As humans, we’re addicted to relationship and so we’re connected. We came out of our mom. All of us did, but our lives depend on this or so we thought, these relationships with everything.
You want people to like you and if people don’t, you’re addicted to having people like you. No matter who you are, somebody doesn’t like you. If you and I met and it was all good for you and I was like, “I don’t fucking like that guy.” It would eat at you a little bit. It doesn’t bother you, but you’re like, “Why doesn’t Nick like me? I want him to like me. I haven’t done anything wrong.”
Let’s shift right now because this is gold where we’re going. When someone doesn’t like you, it’s not you, it’s them.
It’s 100% them. It’s their insecurities and you are every single insecurity they have. You personify what they want to be and they feel inadequate too. They see that in you and they go, “He sucks,” because they want other people to look at you and say, “He sucks.” They think if people like you, then on the flip side, it must mean that nobody likes them because you guys are the opposite. If I love vanilla ice cream, I’m not going to like chocolate ice cream as much. I’ve got to be honest. I’m not a huge chocolate fan.
I don’t know. Childhood trauma? Childhood traumas play a bigger role than people think in their lives. Are we shifting?
Nick, do you have any childhood trauma? Do you have anything that you haven’t talked about? That’s the juice that I like to get into.
We can get into this juice because I work with Megan. Those of you who don’t know, Megan is a therapist that Brendan has referred me too. I love her.
She’s a life coach. Every coach should have a coach. If you don’t have a coach, every successful person should have a coach. Get a coach. If you don’t have a coach, find a coach.
I’ve been working with Megan. Megan has been very good at peeling back my bullshit and saying, “Why do you do this? Why do you do that?” In my life when I was growing up, my dad wasn’t around at all. He left when I was about two years old. I never grew up with him. When I was growing up, that never bothered me. It was just my mom and me in our tiny little trailer park. I felt like I had everything. My mom sacrificed so much. There was never a point where I was like, “This sucks,” or like “Where’s my dad?” My mom was such a good parent that I never had those feelings, but deep down you do. As a kid, even if you’re not cognizant, deep down there is that, “Why the fuck isn’t my dad around? Why am I not good enough?”
This is the shift that I’m talking about. You said to me, “I don’t care that my dad wasn’t in my life. Do I love him?” I was like, “Did you ever miss him or anything?” “Whatever, my mom was incredible. She was amazing.” Those layers were so fucking thick. Remember what I said? I said, “Nick, I guarantee you not only do you miss him, but you do love him.”
I said, “I don’t know,” and to be honest, I still don’t know. There are so many things in our life, in our past that can affect us right now that we don’t even think about. My layers were so thick. It was so buried in my subconscious, but the subconscious affects our habits. It affects how we react to things. It affects our addictions. Unless we identify our toxic traits, addictions, etc. and be able to pull back the layers and figure out why we do them, we’re always going to have them. You could be addicted to fighting because your dad beat the shit out of you and you don’t even remember it. You know fighting’s bad, but until you dive in and figure out the reason I want to fight is that I always felt inadequate when my dad beat the shit out of me, so it makes me feel empowered to beat the shit out of somebody else. That’s a crazy egg to crack for someone to be like, “That’s why I fight because that’s what makes me feel like a man.” I blew some people’s minds.
That was like a nuclear bomb. I feel all the energy smacking me in my face. I’m like, “A nuclear bomb.” The truth is, it’s not even only your parents. It’s everything and everyone. I talk about this a little bit more about my brother and how I felt. I’ve done some horrible things myself that I’m not proud of by any means, but they were learning lessons. There was one time that I put my hands on my sister, one time. I threw her away from me.
Did she deserve it though?
No, but I’ve done a couple of things and me throwing my sister was something that was a pain within myself that I didn’t know how to control. I used to be proud of saying, “I have anger problems,” because it felt like I was a badass. I was empowered. Everyone was like, “He has anger problems. He’s powerful. He can do whatever.” It was a dominance thing because I didn’t even fucking know what being submissive meant. Being submissive isn’t a bad thing all the time. You’re allowing the other person or something else in your life to give you information so that you can learn about it. That’s living a neutral life, like feminine energy and masculine energy.
The perfect combination of those is the definition of Alpha. A lot of people think Alpha is a douchebag, “I’ve got anger problems. Talk shit and I’ll fuck you up.” When a real Alpha is, if someone’s like, “Do you want to fight?” You’re like, “Why would you want to fight me for? What is the reason that you want to fight me? I’m not going to fight you. I don’t need to fight you to prove myself as a man. Let’s talk about it.” More oftentimes than not, the dude who’s trying to start shit isn’t an Alpha. You’re like, “It’s cool. We don’t have to fight. I don’t need to fight you to prove my manhood. I know I have it.” That’s Alpha.
Women, watch out, NK Athletics, Nick over here is going to stare you in the eyes and you’d be like, “I know I got it.” Now, we’re into content creation. This is an incredibly empowering moment. Let’s dive in. When you create, when you are posting something on your story, when you’re posting whatever, what type of value is that? What does it mean to you to post something to your followers? On a scale of 0 to 100 being, “I fucking love every single thing that I say to my followers and I’m passionate about it, I take time with it. I’m open. I’m vulnerable,” to all the way down to zero being, “I don’t really do that.” Where does that fall for value for you when you’re posting?
I have to go in the middle because I do both. I give a huge shit about my followers. I respond to almost every DM. People were like, “You responded.” I always respond with videos. If somebody asks me a question, I record myself on Instagram and I talk to them. Everyone was like, “I can’t believe how personable you are.” I’m like, “You follow me. You support me. I appreciate the fuck out of you.” When I go to posts informative content, I make sure it’s something that’s going to apply to a bunch of people who have the same issue. My one on caffeine that I was telling you about, people over abuse caffeine and they don’t understand how it works. They don’t understand how much it negatively affects them.
I was like, “Here’s the science behind it. Maybe we should all chill on caffeine a little bit.” Do you know what happened? I started getting tagged in 50 stories a day. People were like, “I’m switching to decaf. I’m monitoring my intake,” and three, four days later, people were like, “I never felt so good in my entire life.” Having just that one post that I was like, “This can help people,” and seeing people trust me enough to say, “I’m going to implement this because I trust Nick,” and being like, “I felt the best I’ve ever felt,” is like that puts me on 100. I’ll also post on my story like, “What’s up? I’m out taking shots of vodka.” I’m a real person. I don’t put on this facade of like, “I’m Nick, the trainer,” always. I’m like, “Here’s a fucking informative post. I give a shit about my clients, but I also like to party.”
I like that because you’re talking about a spectrum of value. I believe it’s all value because even when you don’t need to post something, even when you don’t need to provide value, you’re still bringing something to the table. You’re still giving. You’re still providing something so that people know the real you. You’re showing up. That’s what you’re doing. You’re bringing the vulnerability. You’re bringing the authenticity behind, “Not only can I tell you about caffeine,” and go there, even though it’s a little nerve-wracking like, “How are people going to respond?” You want to make sure what you’re talking about but you’re also saying, “I’m a regular fucking dude that goes and takes shots sometimes with friends and dances on countertops.”
I think when it goes back to how many followers people have and how they treat their following and their customers, their clients, etc., it’s like you’re not above anybody. I see so many influencers. People DM them like, “I love you so much,” and they don’t even respond. I don’t know if you follow GaryVee. GaryVee has hundreds of thousands of followers and he’s like, “I respond to every single fucking comment.” You have girls with 100,000 followers that are like, “No, 32 comments. No, I don’t have time.” We went on Pacific Beach in San Diego and I had two followers DM me. They were like, “We’re in Pacific Beach right now. We’re visiting San Diego. Can we meet up?” I was like, “Yes, I’m at the backyard right now. I will wait for you guys to get here. Let me know when you get to the front line because I know the security guards. I’ll let you guys in.” I got them in and we had drinks and we enjoyed ourselves and it was sick. They’re people.
The truth is that you are not better than anyone.
You think because somebody looked at your profile and hit follow, all of a sudden, you’re on this fucking pedestal above them. It’s an app. What happened when Instagram crashed for eight hours? People lost their minds. Do you know what I did? Nothing. I was fine. I didn’t even notice. I got back to my normal work day and by the time I looked back at my phone again, it was working again. Twitter was like, “Is everybody’s Instagram down?” It’s insane how people can take an app like Instagram and feel like they’re God’s gift to this earth because of it. It makes no sense to me.
This is another topic. Don’t just settle for one social media platform. Create you outside of one platform. I’m talking about relationships and network. I’m in Denver, Colorado. You are too. This is where we are and I’ve met so many people. I walk into a door and I’m like, “How are you? I went through from LA. What’s your name?”
This is funny because I put this on my YouTube channel when we were filming that we were on the bridge. There are these two guys asking us for places to shoot photos. They were like, “We’re doing product shots right now.” Brendan parked up, walked right over to these guys, shook their hand and was like, “I’m Brendan, what’s your product?” It was a belt without holes. Brendan was just like, “This is great. What do you guys do? Where are you from? Here’s this. How can I help you guys get better?” I said, “That’s a fucking businessman. That’s an entrepreneur. That’s somebody who doesn’t put themselves above people but genuinely wants to see everybody create themselves at their highest level. That’s a successful person.”
The reason why I did that, two young guys, is because you never know who they are. You never know who they’re connected to. You never know what they’re trying to create and what smile you can bring to their day. You don’t know if they’re suicidal. You don’t know if they hate someone. You don’t know if they’re about to go fucking shoot someone. You don’t know shit. You don’t know if their mom has cancer. You don’t know anything, so what did I do? I said, “What do you guys do?” I was able to create their vision a little bit in their minds and ignite it and they glowed. Do you know what I did? I said, “What do you do?” One of the kids said, “I’m a programmer.” I’m like, “No shit. I’ve been trying to create an app and someone’s been bullshitting me for the longest time. I’ve also wasted $27,000 on an app.” My point is that I now have a connection with a programmer that could potentially build an entire app.
That was purely from Brendan being the type of guy that he is, which is a positive person. Brendan’s energy is disgusting. It’s disgusting in a way that it’s almost overbearing if you’re not used to it because he’s such a positive person. He wants to talk to people when he wants to. He wants everybody who comes into contact with to feel positive when they leave him. I admire the fuck out of it because I’m the same way. You and I are a lot alike. Everybody who I’ve seen Brendan come in contact to is left in a positive way and you don’t see that anymore. You see people walking on the street, neck fucking broken looking down at their phone attitude, “Why are you talking to me?” Brendan is like, “What’s your name? What do you do?”
It’s hard for me to even accept that. I’ve never been able to acknowledge myself or not never. I used to not be able to and when someone would acknowledge me, I’d be like, “Your hair’s nice.” It would be so weird. It’s like, “Why aren’t you accepting it?” and it hurt and it harmed my relationships because I wasn’t acknowledging other people for acknowledging me. It’s because I was insecure. I was fucking insecure about everything. It’s like, “No, am I that nice of a guy? Do I care that much? Do I want to be on a pedestal? No,” even though I was.
I think everybody wants to be. You’re stupid if you say you don’t want people to look at you in that type of light. You’re a liar. Nobody wants to be like, “I wish people thought I was base level.” Nobody wants that. I’m the same way when people compliment me. When I grew up in high school, I was the ugly, skinny kid. This is something that harmed my relationships a lot and like, I can talk about it now, but I never got attention from girls. I’m confident in myself as a man now in terms of my looks, my physique and my confidence going forward. Even to this day, if we go out at a bar and a good looking woman approaches me and talks to me, I’m like, “What?” It still throws me off because I’m still mentally like that dude from high school.
Do you know what’s very interesting about this? Number one, you’re good looking and you carry incredible energy and you’re squirming. Coming from one dude to another, out of respect. It’s empowering to me hearing this from you because I have shifted from that. I’ve been able to shift from that. I’m going to drop off some food to this beautiful woman. She’s beautiful. I’m going to be real. I’m dropping food off to her because I respect our friendship and everything, but I don’t feel uncomfortable if she were to tell me, “I like you,” anymore or like, “I do want to pursue this.” I do get uncomfortable about how much am I going to text her? I don’t want to take the extra step with her like, “What if I do drop off food to her and she looks at me weird like you think that we’re more than friends?” The truth is that I’ve shifted from that mentality and I’ve been able to, in those instances, be so comfortable with the uncomfortable that this is what it is. If everyone else is telling me that I am a good looking guy, there must be something. It probably is the tip of my nose and I need to start showing it. Do you know what I’m saying?
I know exactly what you’re saying. What you said is you get used to and this is what I told you. When I work with people, I see what makes them uncomfortable and I make them do more of it. If people compliment you and it makes you uncomfortable, I’m going to put you in a position where more people are going to compliment you because eventually, it becomes comfortable. You get used to it. Think of the first time as babies we ever started trying to walk. It was fucking hard. It was uncomfortable. We would fall. We didn’t want to try because it sucked. When you fell, it hurt. Eventually, you got used to it. Embracing what makes you uncomfortable and being able to say like, “I don’t do well when people compliment me and it’s affecting my mindset. It’s affecting my relationships with people. I need to get better at accepting compliments.” The only way to do that is to start accepting compliments.
It’s seeing that when it happens and it’s in a compliment, but sometimes we block it out and we don’t even know it’s a compliment.
Somebody will have the defense mechanisms like, “You’re making fun of me.” They walk up and like, “You are super handsome.” You like to look around like, “Are your friends fucking laughing right now?” Go to that ugly dude. I bet you won’t. I bet you won’t go hit on him. You’re like, “You’re a solid ten and I’m a six on a good day with my hair done. What’s going on?”
The truth is that we’re always beautiful in someone’s eyes and that’s something that we need to take in every single day. We are always beautiful in our friend’s eyes or our mom or our dad. Do you know where all that beauty comes? It comes from how you show up with other people and the relationships and the energy you give off.
The attraction is built based on energy. There’s physical when you first start. To approach somebody, you have to be physically attracted to them. What gets people to stay, what gets people to form that relationship with you? I don’t want to say addicted to you, but crave your energy and crave you is your energy that you put out. You can be the best-looking person in the world, but if your energy sucks, nobody’s going to stick around. It comes down to how you show up for other people. That took me such a long time to grasp fully with every single person in my life, whether it be girlfriend, friend, business partner, mom, clients. Everybody needs and deserves a certain amount of your energy and for you to show up to them. Otherwise, they drop off, they stop working with you, they stop coming around, or they break up with you because energy has to be balanced.
Everything in life is a balance. It’s black and white. I don’t even have much else to say about the balance thing.
It is what it is.
Everything it’s encompassing about is creating. It creates you, so you can create everything else in your life so it can blossom, so it could truly be what you’ve always wanted.
You can’t create anything until you create you. You can’t have a relationship with somebody. You can have a successful business unless you create the energy inside of yourself to do so and maintain them.
Discipline, consistency and passion, all these words, everything that you do in your life are so dependent on how you show up for yourself every day. We’re going to summarize this thing. This is a lot of different value and this is exactly how I personally want to show up with every single person that comes on here, is because there’s so much to talk about, so why not tap into and dabble with everything.
What’s crazy is when you get two people that are passionate and you start talking about things. How things can bleed over to other things and that’s what we talked about. You don’t think that something negative in your past can bleed over to everything else. Look at how inter-webbed and far out this show went from rolling things into another. That’s how everything’s going to be.
This was everything I could ask for and more. Nick, NK Athletics, Impakt, to everybody that knows this man, thank you. Thank you for coming on. Thank you for sharing a bit of your story and getting vulnerable with everyone. Thank you for going there and standing for other people that are reading. It’s not only about you, but it’s also about everyone around us and the impact that we can create. Thank you so much, Nick, for joining us. I appreciate everyone that reads this. Remember, if you want to receive seven incredible items free, My Ab Up Program, I have My Fat Loss Meal Plans, a bunch of things and goodies that I give to you, go ahead into iTunes. It’s my way to give back and to say, “Here’s something for you.” I also teach you how to build your business and stuff absolutely free. I’m just asking for a review on iTunes and I think that’s a cool way to give back. It’s a pretty good trade. If you want to check out Nick, where can they find you?
You guys can find me on Instagram and YouTube. That’s the two that I utilize. Both of them are just my name, Nick Komodina. I’m the same on anything. Literally, any social media you want to find me on Facebook, Twitter or Snapchat, everything is Nick Komodina.
Check him out on Instagram. Check him out on YouTube if you do want coaching or anything like that. Seriously, he’s the man. Nick, thank you for joining us. Everyone out there, go create you. Go be who you’ve always wanted to do and not hold back. Do not doubt your dreams and your goals because it’s true. Not only can you make them happen, but you can make them happen quicker than you could ever imagine if you keep on chugging. We’ll see you next time.
About Nick Komodina
Nick Komodina is the founder of Team NK Athletics & Impakt. As the owner of several businesses, Nick has amounted to great success as an influencer, podcaster, coach, and athlete.
With his most recent adventures, he has become one of the top coaches in the fitness industry and trains hundreds of athletes every month!