Episode 102: Is Big D* Energy A Real Thing? (With A 22-Year-Old) With Andrew Wicker

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CUE 102 Andrew Wicker | Big D* Energy

 

Are you a fitness coach wanting to build your business on social media? Then you need to have the Big D* Energy! Andrew Wicker, the General Manager for CreateU gym, joins Brendan Meyers in this episode. Andrew explains what the Big D* Energy is all about: being confident in your own skin and where you are as a person. Today’s episode features an interesting conversation on how you can tap into yourself and get the confidence you need to step up and speak out. Join in and discover your Big D* Energy! 

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Is Big D* Energy A Real Thing? (With A 22-Year-Old) With Andrew Wicker  

Im sitting here with the apprentice, Andrew Wicker. 

What’s going on, everybody? 

If youre a fitness coach, trying to build your business, or your social media, you are going to get a lot from this episode. The title is interesting but as we unfold, youll like it. Andrew comes into the house and getting everything prepared for the show. Im like, Andrew, what should I record? You tell me.” He’s like, “Talk about Big D*** energy.” It’s one of those things where my mom would be like, Brendan, what did you say? At the same time, its something that we need to talk about because I feel like a lot of young men especially 2021, 22 years old struggle with this. BDE, what do you think it means? Lets make sure people understand that were not just talking about the actual man part. We’re talking about energy. What do you think it means, Andrew? 

Big D*** Energy tme means being confident in your own skin, where you are as a person, and express yourself. 

Let’s dig deep into this because we can attribute BDE and correlate it with the way that we show up in relationships. I always say that relationships build businesses. It builds fulfillment and happiness in the end. When you look at BDE, youre right, it comes down to confidence within yourself. Boys, men, men among men, and grandpas. If you have your grandpa reading this, youre going to get some brownie points with your woman. It’s about digging super deep into yourself meaning you have this energy that carried with you all day, every day. It’s almost like when you wake up, your energy starting to buzz and youre thinking about the day, and all of a sudden, your mind starts working. It starts gearing up and you have a little bit more energy or you get a little coffee. 

When it comes to BDE, we have to understand that this energy is always with us. It’s not just at certain times. Maybe youre at a bar and you want to go say hi to a girl. You got to have that BDE. You got to go up and say, “What’s up?” Its always with us. It’s generally in a place that weve never gone before. This is where it gets a little deeper. We’re going to dig in. It comes down to how comfortable you are with yourself at the end of the day. 

What I noticed is a lot of groups of guys joked about it but its a real thing that we talk about and we got to express. 

Why are you saying that? 

Something I deal with, personally. I dont express myself all the time. I’m a little quiet often. Ive got to dig deep and find that big d***. 

At the end of the day, its there. lot of people also misinterpret BDE. They think that because someone is loud and speaks up makes them have this BDE. Sometimes, thereno such thing as too much energy that hurts you. It affects you in a negative way. We’re talking about positive energy here. We want this BDE to create this energy where we feel extremely confident. We could walk into a room and know that were going to get along with peoplewere not going to allow others, what they say to dictate how we feel, and the direction that we take conversations. At the end of the day, its about choosing. What do you know about the choice, Andrew? 

We all have a choice. Every single day when we wake up and every decision that you make is yours. 

If youre catching it on my life. Andrew is the apprentice of me. Hes like my clone in a way. He’s living with me. When we open up the gym, hes going to be going and doing his own thing. We have a lot of conversations and we got real. Its almost like a training camp every day. What were we talking about? Can you bring it up? Do you remember? 

I dont remember. 

We all have a choice. Every single day when you wake up, every decision you make is yours. Click To Tweet

Don’t get mad at me for saying this, guys and girls. If youre a woman reading this, props to you, I respect it. I was talking about how the world has become soft. It becomes a place where we allow society to dictate how we feel and to push us in the direction that it wants to take us. Its almost as if we try and fight what society tells us in the means that are provided to us but then we give up. Do you feel that sometimes? 

Yes. 

It’s almost as if were given a trial membership to a gym and we know that after seven days, the trial membership is going to turn into $400 a month but we dont even go against it. We allow it to happen. That’s the significance of life. Its the significance of society. I always say that we do have the opportunity to paint our own pictures. That’s the choice that we were talking about. It’s associated with BDE. The reason why I brought up that conversation in the kitchen, there were a couple of things that I was trying to mentor. Thats how I do it. I call everybody soft and now I don’t. 

The reason why I brought it up is because we all have the choice to be stronger than what we think we are. We also have the choice in every moment to choose the way that we want to approach the things that are in front of us. Ill give you an example. I do this a lot. I will have a conversation and lets say you made a mistakeMaybe you didnt organize correctly because youre learning and thats fine. Youre also fantastic a lotYou got that BDE. I start talking to you for about a minute. After that minute, Im going on after the point is made. 

The reason why Im continuing is to see how youre going to choose your way out of the conversation. To see if youre going to stand up for yourself and say, I have to go get to work. Thanks for the points. Well talk later.” It’s that choice in those moments when we have our back against the wall where we essentially have the opportunity. That’s where I see personally. In my own life, when I was growing up and even when I was learning in business, I found that to be almost like a blocker to my future. I did not speak up. I didnt know how to confidently say something because I felt like I was going to get punched in the face. I felt like someone was going to beat the shit out of me because of me growing up, that was my situation. I was around people that were older than me anpeople that were into not-so-good things. I was always afraid. I was like, “I dont want to say anything to that guy.” It’s in those moments that we get to choose. Does that make sense? 

It also comes down to people grow up in completely different lifestyles and you get to choose whether you want to stay on that same path or you want to express how you feel or express yourself. 

I want to touch on this because youre like, I hit a wall there. Why? What wall? We all have the power to continue speaking, speaking from our hearts and minds. What came up for you? 

CUE 102 Andrew Wicker | Big D* Energy
Big D* Energy: It comes down to people growing up in completely different lifestyles and choosing whether you want to stay on that same path, or you want to express how you feel.

 

It’s more me being in the uncomfortable position of not a lot of people are good at public speaking or they tell themselves that theyre not. 

Are you talking about yourself? 

Yes. I’m not very comfortable with public speaking and haven’t had a lot of practice with it. It seems like I overthink what I want to say or what I need to say and then run to that block. 

Why are you overthinking it? 

I dont know. 

This is where all humans, male, female, Black, white, doesnt matter where you live, we all are faced with this. When something is coming up for us, we do know the answer. Do you want to know why we feel like we dont? It’s because were choosing not to. We are suppressing it. Its the opposite of BDE. In all seriousness of this energy scale. The spectrum, you have been accustomed to pushing it aside from that when it pops up, youre quick to choose the wrong way, the wrong path that you lose the other path within an incident. What came up for you? Dig deeper. Start unraveling the layers, this onion. What comes up for you when you feel like youre going to speak? Think deep. 

I’m thinking what if I say the wrong thing? I dont know what the wrong thing is but what if I stray off in a direction I dont know what Im talking about and everything Im saying doesn’t make sense. 

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What if what youre saying doesnt make sense? What happens? 

Nothing. Who cares? 

What do you feel is going to happen? 

I dont know.  

You know. This is you choosing not to feel it or not to understand whats going on. Lets say, youre on a stage, you stuckand you hit a block. What are you afraid of? 

People laughing at me. 

This is whats important because what we try to do is suppress it by utilizing other people around us and not taking ownership of how we feel. If I were to say, when people walked down the hallwaythey have acne, and feel uncomfortable with their face because they have scars and it bothers, Im talking about myself. Where I need to be coming from is the acknowledgment saying, I acknowledge my acne. Id be like this, “In high school, when I was walking down the hallway, I would be very insecure about my face and my acne. 

Do you see that difference? The more they become from I is deeper than wed be able to go, uncover, and embrace that whats holding you back. That creates confidence and the confidence creates that BDE. It’s like an educator or practitioner. The reason why theyre a practitioner and most are because theyre experts. When theyre experts, theyve taken the courses, even surgeons. If a surgeon doesnknow what theyre doing, they will kill somebody. It’s very important that they have BDE. For you, its people laughing at you. WhyYou know why. What happened? 

Nothing happened. I grew up didnt express how I felt. I was trapped in a relationship for six years. It held me back. It didn’t allow me to be myself. It weighs on me now. Ive been working out a lotDancing with Brendan on his Instagram stories and stuff is something I would never do. Every day Ive been posting videos of me talking on my Snapchattrying to get out of my comfort zone. 

I want you to notice something. You’re getting deep. You get emotional, which I acknowledged the fuck out of that because a lot of people cannot get emotional. The more you start tapping into that, you feel free. Look at how you shifted away from that emotion and you started going into what youre working on rather than digging deeper and understanding it. How can we implement the things that we need to get to this BDE if were not willing to understand deeply enough? It’s like an offensive coordinator playing in football. If you know the NFL, if youre domestic in the United States, you know about the National Football League. I played collegiate football. 

CUE 102 Andrew Wicker | Big D* Energy
Big D* Energy: At the end of the day, we have to get vulnerable.

 

It’s like an offensive coordinator coming in to run an offense by only knowing the quarterback. He’s only met the quarterback and worked with him for two months. He doesnt know any of the wide receivers. He doesnt have a game plan. He doesnt have anything. Based on knowing the quarterback and not learning about the wide receivers, lineman, and how everyone plays together, hes going in and creating players. Do you think thats going to be effective? No. Hes going to be missing pieces. That’s another thing that we do. When were tapping into our emotions, this shit is tricky but its also very simple. At the end of the day, it comes down to a choice. You get to choose if you feel more comfortable or not, and its not going to feel comfortable. 

You have to choose to feel comfortable that youre going to acknowledge your comfortability at that point or that vulnerability and allow yourself to dig deeper and uncover more. If you have to scream then scream. If you have to cry, you cry. If you have to laugh then laugh. For me, for instance, I had to start talking more. I try and make everyone in the groupFor you, you might smile, you stay completely quiet, or we are trying peopleplease. We have an analyzer, controller, promoter, all these different ways that we live through life and walked through life. 

At the end of the day, we have to get vulnerable. Let me ask you, whats one thing that youre going to try that’s going to help you uncover all the shit going on inside you so that you can become BDE powerful? Whats one thing that youre going to do? Let me give you some examples. Readers, take some notes and try this for yourself. One thing that I do is I will challenge myself with something that puts me out there that I do not want to do and I try and do this once every few days. Im on this Clubhouse appIll go into a big room with 500 people. I raised my hand and Ill try and get to the stage so I could speak. I dont know anybody on there. 

That’s uncomfortable. I have to make a pitch in a way where within about fifteen seconds, all the moderators are on that stage because its an audio app, they see me as an expert and someone that can bring value to their stage but then also, I have to try and keep the attention of the room to make sure that they know that Im not trying to sell anything or I’m not coming from an ego perspective. Ill put myself in that situation and thats one thing that Ill do every few days. I challenged myself. My heart is racingThat happens regardless. Ive spoken in front of 1,000 people and my heart is racing but then I get up there and calm down for a second. What’s one thing that youre going to do thats going to make you extremely uncomfortable? 

Something I could do is every day when I go to the gym make a friend, a guy, girl, talk to somebody, communicate with themand see like, “Why theyre here? What theyre doing?” 

That’s a good way because I feel like once you have friends, you get on a roll and start making more friends. 

It’s more comfortable. 

Did you use to make that first friend? 

On my couple of friends. 

Readers, if you want to take the challenge as well, go make a couple of friends. This is the one thing that I do. This thing works with the lady. Ill go up to a girl at the gym and they get too close. Im like, “Six feet. What are you doing? They start giggling because Im cute. I’m using BDE now. That’s how I start the conversation or even if I want to make a friend as a guy, Im like, “Six feet. We cant become close here by now,” then you form a friendship. 

That friendship could bring so much value to your life. I love that. Thats a couple of examples right there of how to do it if you want to take it onIyoure struggling with BDE and confidence in general, tap into other shows and listen to how these guys speak. Listen to Joe Rogan. He’s chilling and talking with everybody. Its not so much about creating confidence. Its about owning the confidence that you already have. Its about recognizing the confidence thats already inside you. It’s about recognizing the beauty, intellect, strength, and happiness that we were already born with. Many times, we forget. It smacks us out of nowhere. Were like, I forgot that Im very handsome, I have a nice smile, great laugh, and I went to school for four years.”  

Everything you’ve done, you forget. 

You really dont forget. Have you ever played outside when itfall and all the leaves are falling? Your friend piles all the leaves over you. Its like that. All you have to do is get up. All these leaves are paper thin. The education, confidence, the qualities that you have, all of it is there. Thats all were going to talk about, Andrew. Anything else you want to bring up about BDE, Big D*** Energy? 

Express it. 

Express the BDE? 

Let’s do it. 

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CreateU Gym is about to launch. If you were in Denver, Colorado and you want to try out our facility, it’s super epic. Andrew will most likely greet you at the door. Hes the man. If you were looking to white label, some nutritional products, greens, pre-workout, mood immune, follow me at Instagram @TheBMeyersAlso, if you have not subscribed to my YouTube, I document a lot of what were doing at CreateU. If you dont know what CreateU is, we have a nutrition and software company.  

If youre a coach and personal trainer and you want to expedite the process and bring more efficiency to your game, DM me, follow me, Im always here to chat. Even if you have a couple of questions, send me a DM @TheBMeyersWe got you. We’re here to help. That’s why were on this show and not selling any other brands, products, or anything like that. We want to ignite your breakthrough and bring your vision to lifeThanks so much for reading this blog. BDE, Big D*** Energy. Andrew, where can they find you? 

@AWick111_ on Instagram. 

Well be back for another one. This was a little bit more fun, a little bit more energetic. If you enjoyed it, please do give us a review, five stars or one, if you hate us. Thats okay too. I read all of them. Thanks, and well see you next time. 

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About Andrew Wicker

CUE 102 Andrew Wicker | Big D* EnergyA 22-year-old General Manager for the CreateU Gym & the apprentice to Brendan Meyers. Andrew is a young man driven by passion & hard work.

 

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