With everything that is going on in the world, it is so easy to fall into a place of judgment. We allow our initial reactions to get the best of us that we fail to take a step back and look carefully into the situation. We judge things and other people too quickly; we forget to assess, understand, and learn. In this episode, Brendan Meyers talks about judgment and how it breeds failure. He talks about it in the context of our egos, highlighting the way judgment gets us nowhere. In a world where negativity runs high, challenge yourself to be better. Brendan tells you how.
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Judgment Breeds Failure
We’re going to be talking about judgment like judging other people and stuff. First, tell me how are you doing? I know it’s been super stressful. There’s so much going on. The unemployment rate in the United States is over 26 million. They’re saying that the death rates of COVID-19 are more like 0.4% to 0.5%. I don’t even know what’s going on. I go on the news and one person is saying one thing. I go to another news network and they’re saying one thing. The President says one thing and then social media says one thing. I’m at the point where I’m just focusing on me and giving back in many ways that I can.
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A few years ago, I was sick. I didn’t even know if I was ever going to be able to do social media or if I was ever going to do anything. I didn’t realize that I was going to be taking the back seat. I didn’t think that my face wasn’t going to be the brand of anything. I always thought I’m just the influencer. I have a lot of followers, 800,000 on YouTube, and people want to watch me. I learned that when you can take the step back, look at it from a different perspective, and take the ego out of it, you grow so much more than you could ever imagine. That leads me to growing and judgment. Judgment falls into our lives and everything quickly.
The quarantine is happening. We’re super stressed. I’ve been up and down with my stress and anxiety levels. I’ve learned to stay steady with my meditation, my morning routines, and eating a certain way. I’m staying as structured as possible and it’s helped me a lot. It’s funny because we at CreateU started formulating a stress product called Mood Boost. We went into manufacturing for it and it’s coming out. It just so happens that many people are stressed. That might be something that you want to pick up as well. Keep that on the back burner for yourself. I’m going to be using it consistently once it hits our distribution center. I’m excited about that.
Let’s jump right into a judgment. What’s going on? What’s going on with this world? What’s going on with social media? What’s going on with us? Let’s look at ourselves in the mirror. Before we can point fingers at social media, the news, this or that, how are we showing up? That’s the type of stuff that I ask myself all day, every day, especially when I wake up. “How are you going to show up, Brendan? Do you want to be just a prick? Do you want your ego to take hold of all your learning, education, and everything you’ve worked towards to be the man you are now? Do you want that ego?” I’m like, “I don’t want that.” It’s like I’m having a conversation with myself. You have that critic, that guy or girl in the back of your mind that’s like, “Do that. Don’t do that.” It’s talking all day. That’s who I’m talking to.Judgment gets us nowhere. Click To Tweet
When it comes to judgment, this is something I used to struggle with majorly. I used to judge people all the time. In reality, I wasn’t looking in the mirror. Why was I judging these people? Because I thought I was the best. I thought I had it all figured out. I thought I was the only one that worked hard. It’s always I was the one. It’s a big ego trip. Judgment gets us nowhere. If anything, learning, asking questions, understanding, creating respect, all of these things get us to vast places and in many myriads of places. It was a young age of the B. Meyers where when I was 13, 14, I was picked on. At fifteen, I started playing sports in high school football. I played collegiate football. At sixteen, I started getting a little bit more fame in my school. At seventeen, I was more of a popular kid playing football in my junior year. At eighteen, I was a senior year playing football. I’m going to be going to college to play football.
It was all working out and it went from being the life of the party when I was young to not being the life of any party or being the laughingstock of the party, then to being the life of the party again and just fizzling out. I’ve resulted in judgment like, “This is the way I can show up for people. This is the way that I can make people feel they’re less than me.” At the end of the day, that’s not fair to anyone. Maybe this show is for you to recognize that Brendan used to have a major ego trip and created a lot of problems in his life because of it. I don’t want you to make the same mistakes. It’s not one bit worth it. Imagine if you held your tongue and instead of the judgment of someone else, you ask them a question. I don’t know if you’ve ever read The Four Agreements. It’s a great book. A lot of people have read that book.
Imagine someone comes up to you and you guys start talking or debating. When you leave your classroom, you noticed that your pen is missing. Immediately you assume that the person sitting next to you, the person that you were talking to the entire time, took your pen. I know many of us have done this in school a long time ago. “That dude straight up stole my pen for his own good.” You start saying things to him the next time you see him like, “Why did you steal my pen? You’re this way, you steal. You’re not a good person.” That’s all judgment. Imagine if we asked, “Did you happen to see a pen when you left?” They said, “Yeah, I picked it up. I didn’t know whose it was, but I grabbed it. Is this it right here?” How does that show up for us now? It creates not even a better connection with that person, but a better connection with our own mind and the way that we think positively towards people.
The truth of the matter is when we’re searching for a reason or a negative connotation, when you’re searching for something negative, that’s what you’re going to get. It creates more negative things around it. It’s like an energy field. You’re not just going to walk into an energy field and there’s only one part of it that’s buzzing off like crazy. It’s the whole thing. Stop thinking that assumptions, if anything, is getting you close to the conclusion. It’s only a hypothesis with a lot of negative shit behind it. I’ve been in many scenarios where even my ex-girlfriend, this is when I was trying to learn more about myself. I would say negative things about other people behind their backs. I’d be like, “That person is this.” I wouldn’t say it to anyone else. I’d only say it to her. She told me, “You shouldn’t talk about people.” I didn’t understand until it blew up in my face one day. I was like, “Now I understand.” It does no good and at the end of the day, it makes me look like a fool more than anyone else.
Hold it back. I know you want to judge people. Let’s say you’re very serious about this quarantine. You’re very serious about COVID-19, which I believe we should in many regards. Let’s say you’re like, “Do not go out. Do not see people,” and then you see a friend on your story and they’re with a friend. You immediately assumed this person shows true colors of who this person is. Maybe they’re drinking some beer together, hanging out, or drinking a shot. Later you find out that that’s their roommate. Maybe they’re dating and they’ve been dating and seeing each other even before then. They know they’re both quarantining and decided to quarantine together. These judgments come with the assumption. It correlates so well and it’s so negative. It doesn’t help.
What can you change for yourself? How can you be better? Ask yourself that. How can you be better when you wake up in the morning and you want to judge somebody or you want to throw something out there? Who are you judging? At the end of the day, you’re judging yourself. You judge someone else and you judge yourself. Your word is your word. Everything you put out is going to be coming right back at you in different ways and forms. That felt good to get all of that off my chest. I feel like we as humans can do better, especially socially.
What’s there to miss out on if we’re not trying to always draw conclusions? That we have to discover things naturally? That we have to be patient? The thing that’s destroyed me my entire life is patience. “Brendan, be patient. This girl that you’re dating, be patient.” I’m not patient, she falls through. “Brendan, this business deal, be patient. Don’t say anything.” I have to say it, ego. It falls through. “Brendan, be patient. YouTube, you’re growing.” It’s the same thing over and over again. It’s the story of not only my life, but I believe the majority of us.
This is my opinion and you can see me as being right or wrong, but I believe the majority of the world isn’t patient and they’re judgmental. Social media creates a platform where we can create a judgment. Swiping right or left on a Tinder profile or a Bumble profile for instance. You’re judging and you’re able to judge at that moment. If anything, it feeds us like we’re babies and we’re learning a new language. Let’s step away. Let’s take this language away. We can understand the language, but we don’t have to speak it though. It’s on us whether or not we speak that language. Take a different perspective. I hope this gave a little bit of love out to the universe. I don’t know if you’re religious if you’re Muslim, Jewish, Christian. I try to love everybody.You judge yourself when you judge someone else. Click To Tweet
Hopefully, this gave you some clarity and allowed you to think a little bit differently than you do. The judgment doesn’t get you anywhere. I’m living proof of it. Once I shifted away from that, my life transformed forever. I appreciate you so much. Thanks for tuning in. It’s a little bit short. I had some fun with this one just chatting it up with you. If you have any ideas for podcasts, go ahead and send me a message on Instagram @TheBMeyers and also follow us @CreateU. Check out our Low Stim Pre Workout and also our stress product, Mood, is coming out soon. Thanks for tuning in. I’ll see you next time.