The majority of people focus too much on the things that they’re going to lose at, and that what sets successful people, entrepreneurs, and brands apart. They’re all extremely focused on the big vision, the ultimate goal, and they never stop transforming. On today’s show, Brendan Meyers explains why we should be focusing on the good, and how this winning mindset can help us stop thinking about the possibility of losing. At the end of the day, if we don’t shoot for the stars, then we’ll never get there.
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Focus on the GOOD!
I am feeling super juicy. I don’t know if you know what juicy means, and I don’t either, but I know I feel that way. I feel like we needed to get started off with a bang. I was walking with one of my content creators at CreateU, his name is Jeremy. He’s an incredible kid. He’s smart. He’s killing the game with editing. I was in a conversation. I told him, “I want you to listen in on this conversation for 1 hour and 15 minutes about this possible investment that CreateU would be making, that us as a team would be making to expand and make some big things happen and impact a lot of lives.” On this walk, I got so passionate. I was digging deep. If you know who I am and if you’ve been reading these blogs, if you check in with me on my Instagram, @TheBMeyers, or even if you follow the CreateU Instagram and all these other brands that we work with and we’re partnering with. You’ll notice that they’re all passionate. They’re all extremely focused on the big vision, the ultimate goal and they never stop. They always transform. They always evolve. I’m thankful to be a part of all this stuff. That’s how I am. When I’m on this conversation, I’m like, “Jeremy, pay close attention to what I’m talking about here.”
What we discussed was all about not passing by the risk and all the negatives, but focusing on that winning mindset. The majority of people focus too much on the things that they’re going to lose at. Maybe it’s a football game and you’re going up against the best team in the entire country, or you’re building a car and you’ve never installed an exhaust onto your car. Maybe you’re editing a video and you’ve never edited before, you think that it’s not going to be good. It’s going to be a bad time. You’re going to feel like you’re in the last place. Whenever you lose, I don’t know about you, but for me when I lose, I feel like I’m in last. I wasn’t close to being a first. At the end of the day, everyone that doesn’t win loses.
I was focusing on the entire conversation. What’s the risk? What would happen if we lost this or that? What would happen if we lost everything? At the end of the day, if we don’t shoot for the stars, then we’ll never get to the stars. I glanced over that risk. What my attention was gravitating towards was that winning mindset was, “How do we get there? What is the possibility of us even getting to this point or that point?” The progression, all these things. I’m still wired by this. I wanted to come on here and speak about it. Many of us, we think about the possibility of losing or we think about what it would feel like when we lose. What do you know? We lose time and time again. Maybe you’re good with relationships. You’re in a solid relationship and you’re good at developing that relationship so that your significant other feels empowered. You feel empowered and you guys love each other and all that stuff. Maybe you’re extremely bad at business. You keep on launching businesses after businesses. Maybe you’re trying to transform your body and you suck at health. Let’s come to terms that you suck at health. What is the difference between the relationship with a significant other and the relationship with yourself and food? Yourself and fitness? Yourself and making money?
There is no real difference when it comes to the mindset. If you have confidence in your relationship with a significant other, what is lacking in that confidence with the business? You haven’t done it before? How do you combat that? How do you overcome that feeling of like, “I haven’t done it yet. I’m probably going to fail?” First, you change your words. I’ve said this many times, your word is your world. What are you saying? How are you speaking to yourself? If you think you’re going to lose, you’re going to lose. Because the person next to you, if they do want to win as bad as they say they do, they’re going to think they’re going to win. That’s why some people are superior when it comes to professional sports than others. There may be many different pros, but there may be certain doubts that keep on arising. There are the physical abilities of certain athletes with others.
Think about the mindset. Think about Michael Jordan. If you have all heard the story about him in high school, he didn’t make the team, and now he’s the greatest basketball player to ever live, with a little asterisk because LeBron James is damn good. The fact of the matter is if he was anybody else, if he was the majority, he would have quit and there would be no Michael Jordan. Maybe there would be another guy, but it would not be Michael Jordan. How do you become the Michael Jordan of your life? How do you stop focusing on the losses and the what-ifs and start focusing on the how-to, the progression and what’s next?
I mapped it out like this with Jeremy on the kitchen counter, I said, “Let’s take a spectrum. You put two hands out on a table. On the right-hand side, move your hand further away. I would say 2 feet away. On your left-hand side, move it about 2 feet to the left.” This is your spectrum. On the left-hand side, this is all the good that could come from this investment that you’re going to make, into the relationship, into whatever you’re going to develop. Maybe you’re going to build a car. The best-case scenario is you put the exhaust into the car. It works perfectly. It sounds amazing. When you drive-by, people are like, “This looks great.”
All the way on the right-hand side is the risk of investment. If you do invest, this is the bad stuff that could happen. Maybe the exhaust doesn’t even work. Maybe it messes up other pieces of the car. Maybe when you’re driving, there are certain things like people don’t like the sound of it and they all think it’s ugly. There are two different sides to it. One’s a complete failure and one is a complete success. Where are you thinking when you approach a new situation, when you approach a new relationship? Everything is a relationship whether it’s with food. Some people are like, “There’s no relationship with food.” It’s the components of a relationship. How willing are you? Are you disciplined? Are you this? Are you open? Are you vulnerable?
With the exhaust, how are you thinking of implementing that exhaust into your car or installing that exhaust in your truck? How are you thinking when it comes to your Facebook ads? Maybe you want to run Facebook ads for your business and you’ve never done it before. What are you thinking? Are you thinking you’re going to succeed or you’re going to fail? The majority of people think too much about the failures. If you’re thinking so much about the positive and you understand the risk and the spectrum, you’re looking at the spectrum like, “This is the biggest failure. This is what’s possible, but also what’s possible on the other side of the entire spectrum is me with full success, with full happiness, with everything that I could ever ask for and more.” Where are you aiming?
For me, this is how I approach different situations. I aim for the win every fucking time. It does not matter where I am and who I’m dealing with. You could be a 65-year-old who’s ready to invest $10 million into my company, it does not matter. You could be a school kid that’s sixteen years old, I will still approach it the same exact way when it comes to the mindset of winning in that relationship. When I mean winning in that relationship, it also is the same with building a car, building a business, meeting a new girl for the first time or any of those things. I want to win the relationship. What does winning the relationship look like? It means happiness for both of us. It means happiness for the car being built. It means happiness for the entire team that has come together to develop CreateU. We all win at the end of the day.Your word is your world. If you think you're going to lose, you're going to lose. Click To Tweet
If I’m always focusing on the winning but I know the risk and I know what the worst possible scenario is, do you ever think the worst possible scenario will happen? Most likely, no. I can’t put a specific percentage on it, but I would say it’s 99% chance that it’s not going to happen. There’s always that small chance, but I’ve never been in a situation where the worst-case scenario happened ever. I can’t think of one specific time. Has it come close? Yes, but it’s never been that failure because my focus is not what I’m not going to be able to do. It’s about what I am capable of doing and what I will do.
Where are you looking? Are you looking at the negative? Are you looking at the possibilities of failure all the time? Are you feeling those emotions of what failure will look like when you do fail? Are you feeling those emotions already? Have you already made the mistake before you even made the mistake? That is the difference between a winning mindset and a struggling and weak mindset. I use that word weak because it’s the truth. It’s factual. If you’re always focusing on failure, that is a weakness. At the end of the day, it is a weakness and that’s okay. When you first step into a gym, what do you do? You start off weak. What do you do when you first step onto the calisthenics park or even the gym itself? You’re weak.
If you’re a professional football player and you tear your ACL and you come back in, there have been guys that even had better careers after their tears because they didn’t focus on the weakness. They focused on, “Where am I going to be? What are my goals? What is my vision? What the fuck is going to happen after I push hard over these next six months?” I’m going to ask you one more time and come to terms with yourself. Have you been carrying that weakness with you everywhere you go with that burden? That weak burden is a damn heavy burden. It is weighing you down. The weakness is the heavier thing in your life. Do you know what’s light? Do you know what’s freeing? Do you know what will get you to jump that vertical jump of 38 inches to be able to build that successful business? To be able to do everything that you wanted to do in the gym, outside of the gym, new PRs, starting something new, new relationship. It’s about thinking about the future and thinking about what you can do now to make that shit happen.
Discipline, consistency, all of these things, it’s a relationship with whatever you’re about to invest in. That relationship will succeed when you start looking at the spectrum and saying, “I can’t just turn a cold shoulder to failure, mistakes and what the worst possibilities could be, but I sure as hell cannot focus on them and focus on what I will be in the words that I’m putting behind my action.” That’s what I had to say. Remember, Body Evolution has launched for all males. If you want to sign up for something, it’s $3 a month, daily gym workouts, bodyweight workouts, meal plans, all that stuff. Females, we have an awesome brand called SculptU for mental health and daily workouts. It’s an incredible membership as well.
We also have 1Hera, that’s for pregnant women and also moms. If you’re a mom, join 1Hera.us. It’s a great membership for you to be a part of. Workouts, meal plans, things for more pregnant and moms in general. We have other things that are coming. I told you about a gym and that is going to happen. I’m always focusing on the positives and then CreateU Nutrition. We’re developing. Thirty-five servings is finally here. If you want to pick some stuff up, CreateUNutrition.com. Those Greens, 35 servings, we’re going to be upgrading the formula even more probably in the next round or the round after that. We’re excited about that and we’re building. Thanks for reading. This is a QuickTime Friday. Check us out on Instagram, @CreateU. I appreciate you for reading. I’ll see you next time.